Categories: Authenticity

I shouldn’t have

It is a nice thing to fall in love. Many times, people ask the question of “when” more than the question of “who”. However, if we believe that love never ends, the question of who would be more important than the question of when. It’s obvious that if you fall in love with the right person at age 5, the person can wait for you to reach the right age for marriage.
The union between man and the spiritual world is more like it too. Unfortunately, it’s impossible to polygamize when it comes to the union of the humans and the spirit world. If you choose the spirit of God, the spirit of flesh should let go, and the reverse is true.
Like the writer of 1st Corinthians says in 13:11, it is one thing to grow, but another to let go the childish ways. Many of us want to grow, but don’t want to let go the childish ways. This blending doesn’t bring life. It is impossible to serve two masters; obviously, you’ll be loyal to one and despise the other.
Consider the love poem below:

Jane loved me, and I loved her too.
She was not the most beautiful, but so loving.
She was all I needed.
I didn’t know it then.

Sharon came to my life.
As a friend, she convinced me that I needed her more than anything.
Days came to weeks, to months, and friendship became stronger.
I realized I wasn’t giving Jane my best time anymore.
But Sharon was everything I needed.

One day, I went to visit Sharon.
“close your eyes”, she told me.
Without thinking twice, I closed my eyes.
Mwaaa! A kiss on to my lips.
Was it real, or a dream?
“I love you, I always wanted to be with you”, Sharon told me.

With much energy, I started with Sharon.
Jane was dying with heartbreak, but I didn’t want to know.
I hardly picked up Jane’s calls, I was happy with Sharon.
Soon, Jane was history.

I had fun with Sharon, moving places, building dreams, and many things.
But then I realized Sharon was always on phone, flirting with other men.
I asked her about it, but somehow she convinced me there was nothing on with them.

Days became weeks, then months.
Sharon became much harder to understand.
She doesn’t want to see me talk to anyone, not my friends, not my family.
Soon, I had no friend. My family distanced me.
I told Sharon, “Will you marry me?”
“I don’t really think of marriage, just enjoy while it lasts”, Sharon replied.
I was confused, but there was nothing to do.
I turned to the other side of the bed and started playing candycrash, while she flirts with others.

Soon, I made a decision that would ruin me properly, We moved to stay together.
Sharon started becoming so busy for me.
Sharon doesn’t want me to touch her anymore.
Sharon found another love.

“Are you in love with another man?”, I asked.
Sharon turns cruel.
Unapologetically, she starts resenting me for asking about her love life.
“We are only roommates, you are not my husband!”, Sharon told me.
I knew I was finished.

I picked my phone to call Jane to apologize, the phone was off.
I tried to catch sleep, but not a bite could I get. Reality was dawning on me.
Thoughts ragged through my mind.
I was ruthless in leaving Jane, and now Sharon is not thinking twice about leaving me.
My life is doomed.

One lucky day, I called Jane’s brother, asking for her whereabouts.
“It’s been a while, we haven’t seen her, and her phone is off”, he told me.
The following day, he called me, and told me what I expected, “Jane is married, sorry”
I couldn’t cry, I couldn’t laugh. I left Jane, but Sharon doesn’t need me anymore.
The difference is, I didn’t finish my journey with Jane, but Sharon did what she always does.
She was a playground, but I didn’t see that.
She was a devil in human nature.
I shouldn’t have left Jane.
I shouldn’t have fallen for Sharon’s trap.

In this story, relationship with Jane represents man’s relationship with God. It may not look so beautiful, not so romantic, not so loud. In fact, it is a relationship that does not always promise a castle, not a trip to a foreign country. It is a relationship that we can only have if we close our eyes to other things.
On the other hand, relationship with Sharon is one with the world. It comes and shows us all what we need, the good house, well paying job, a cool car, popularity, respect, security, and many others. Unfortunately, this is what it promises everyone. When you fall in the trap, he singles you out, peradventure you get out if you are close to friends and family. You soon have no one to advise you. You’re a lone ranger. This is when you discover that it was only helping you waste your time.
The writer of Ecclesiastes cautioned us, he told us to remember our creator before the sun sets. When the sun sets, we get full of regrets, and soon there’s nothing much we can do to redeem ourselves. For this reason, we ought to do what is right when we can. Let go of Sharon, and get back to Jane when you still can, before the door is closed.
One of the most sad stories of Jesus is that of the virgins. If we don’t do the right things like the wise virgins, we soon end up like the foolish virgins. There’s nothing between. Either you choose wise, or foolish, that’s it. What will you do today? The choice is yours.